In an earlier post I talked about an interpersonal model with four parts.
 

What did I do?
What did I expect?
What was my interpretation of what happened?
How do I react to that, both toward myself and emotionally?

 
In the second step, what we want is to have people respond in ways that we expect. Getting the reaction we [...]

 
I am starting to appreciate a new term (for me) “organizing principle” that Shapiro (1995) uses in his book Talking With Patients: A Self Psychological View. I believe it is closely related to, but not quite the same as mantra, schema, pattern, and script … all words used to describe how we understand our experience [...]

I have been doing more couples counseling lately and the article Intimacy: What is it anyway? written by Julienne B. Derichscaught LCPC for GoodTherapy.org caught my eye. Julienne says:

Intimacy is not a concrete concept; it is a quality in a relationship that takes on many forms. The common thread being feelings of closeness [...]