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TLC for a marriage

» by Larry December 31st, 2007 at 10:59 am » Comments (0)

If you like the sound of these headlines you will appreciate this article written by Dr Laura Berman:
 

Tell your kids no!
Rediscover your bedroom.
More than just a date night.
Who do we appreciate?
Keep it exciting.
Don’t lose yourself.

A marriage that works provides a solid core for nurturing children.



Assertiveness: A more powerful response

» by Larry December 19th, 2007 at 12:05 pm » Comments (0)

Assertiveness is a very powerful approach to interactions with other people. Frequently people get trapped in old ways of interacting that do not work in an adult world. Without thinking about doing something different or getting some training, they continue to do what worked, or at least seemed to work earlier in their life. Pouting [...]



Bill of rights

» by Larry December 17th, 2007 at 9:23 am » Comments (0)

Aimée over at The Reality of Anxiety copied the following bill of rights from Edmund Bourne’s book The Anxiety & Phobia Work Book. Thank you Aimée.
The book is very good and one I have used as a reference in my counseling work. The bill of rights has helped me think about all of [...]



Feeling angry about feeling

» by Larry December 10th, 2007 at 9:10 am » Comments (0)

Sometimes therapists talk about people having layers of feeling. The idea is that under sadness might be anger, under anger, might be loneliness, and so on. I was thinking about anger and how common it is, especially among men. It dawned on me that feeling angry about having another feeling might be a better [...]



Making the unconscious conscious

» by Larry December 8th, 2007 at 12:38 pm » Comments (0)

 

Nice article from Zen Habits! I like that it recommends living life consciously and has some very practical ways to do that. The heart of the matter lies in this quote:

How to Live Life Consciously
… it is deceptively simple: Be conscious, and think about, everything you do. Make conscious choices rather than doing things without [...]



Couples Counseling

» by Larry December 3rd, 2007 at 9:06 am » Comments (1)

My approach to couples counseling combines basic counseling principles with the work of John M. Gottman who wrote an excellent and practical guide: The Seven Principles for Making Marriage Work. Since Gottman’s book is a “guide”, he has developed 7 principles that are expressed in the form of exercises. I recommend that any couple interested [...]



Guilt

» by Larry December 2nd, 2007 at 9:44 pm » Comments (0)

This is a good article on an important emotion. It seems to me that it works nicely with emotion as information.
 
5 Tips for Dealing with Guilt
by John M. Grohol, Psy.D.
November 27, 2007
It’s amazing how quickly guilt can kick in for the smallest, most meaningless things in our lives.
 
Pasted from <http://psychcentral.com/blog/archives/2007/11/27/5-tips-for-dealing-with-guilt/>
 



Good mantra, bad mantra

» by Larry December 2nd, 2007 at 1:46 pm » Comments (0)

One of my clients recently described that she has a constant “mantra” that guides her response to situations. I usually describe these thoughts as personal “themes” or as “intents.” The use of the word mantra was very effective. A mantra can be a useful guide; however, a mantra can also be the central cause of [...]