In some sense the process for changing you is simple. You get where you are through the experiences you have in your life. You get to a new place by having new and different experiences in your life.

Have you ever wondered if counseling is for you? The following are four situations when counseling may help.

Sometimes people are confused about counseling and how it relates to other mental health professions. The following article points out some of the distinctions.

It should come as no surprise that “telling our story” is very powerful. In counseling and psychotherapy we sometimes use the term “narrative.” With this thought, I decided to take a stroll through some of my books, including clinical, self-help, and literature, to see how others have thought of or used narrative.

According to Webster, change means “to make different in some particular.” Frequently the change a client is looking for is a different outcome or result in their life. They say, I want to be happy; I want to stop being sad; I want to stop getting so angry; I want to fit in [...]

I have not found the idea of an “anchor-self” in the literature. Maybe it is there under a different name. Yet, the idea is simple and may help with understanding the dramatic reaction that we have to certain changes in our lives.
 

I use the phrase “Solutions tailored to fit you” as a way to “brand” my work. These words also have a very significant clinical implication.

I decided to begin a study of self-esteem. Everyone wants it, but where does it come from? Do we build it? If so, I go back to the days when I built “things.” If I can describe the thing I want to build then I have a much better chance of actually building it. If [...]

 
I am starting to appreciate a new term (for me) “organizing principle” that Shapiro (1995) uses in his book Talking With Patients: A Self Psychological View. I believe it is closely related to, but not quite the same as mantra, schema, pattern, and script … all words used to describe how we understand our experience [...]

Nice article from Zen Habits! I like that it recommends living life consciously and has some very practical ways to do that. The heart of the matter lies in this quote:

How to Live Life Consciously
… it is deceptively simple: Be conscious, and think about, everything you do. Make conscious choices rather than doing things without [...]