OODA Loop: Observe- Orient- Decide- Act
The other day I decided to use the OODA Loop to describe what we were trying to accomplish as I sat in my Chicago office, counseling a client for anger. As the article says, OODA was developed by Col. John Boyd for air combat and warfare. I am not suggesting [...]

One way that emotions go astray is they become disconnected in space, time, or direction. This seems to be especially true with anger and anxiety, although, I am sure it fits for other emotions as well.
Emotions can be thought of as providing information (I will post more on this idea later). The information provided by [...]

When I counsel people for anger I always prefer to resolve the problem at its source. However, sometimes people need a way to contain their anger until a better solution is found.
Taking a “timeout” followed by your preferred relaxation technique is a good containment approach. The relaxation technique listed below is straightforward and [...]

Several of my clients have gotten into difficult arguments simply by using the word “why.” Sometimes when we want to know what is going on with someone close to us, we start with the “innocent” use of why. For instance: “Why didn’t you call me yesterday?” In the real world, the one we learned about [...]