If you like the sound of these headlines you will appreciate this article written by Dr Laura Berman:
A marriage that works provides a solid core for nurturing children.
Assertiveness is a very powerful approach to interactions with other people. Frequently people get trapped in old ways of interacting that do not work in an adult world. Without thinking about doing something different or getting some training, they continue to do what worked, or at least seemed to work earlier in their life. Pouting or shouting might have worked for some children in some families, but rarely works well for adults, and certainly doesn’t work well in business.
Sometimes therapists talk about people having layers of feeling. The idea is that under sadness might be anger, under anger, might be loneliness, and so on. I was thinking about anger and how common it is, especially among men. It dawned on me that feeling angry about having another feeling might be a better way to view this layering idea.
Nice article from Zen Habits! I like that it recommends living life consciously and has some very practical ways to do that. The heart of the matter lies in this quote:
How to Live Life Consciously
… it is deceptively simple: Be conscious, and think about, everything you do. Make conscious choices rather than doing things without thinking. That’s all.
Much of counseling is directed toward “making the unconscious conscious.” A lot of my work with anger counseling is directed toward the question: “Angry about what?” The answer leads to making the source of emotion conscious. The response to the answer turns reactions into “conscious choices” as described in the article.
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